Spending time apart from your kids is hard for any parent. In most co-parenting situations, there is an agreed-upon schedule that, in normal times, would be adhered to, but what if you get sick.
There are definitely moments when your health makes it impossible to be the parent you want to be. If you contract a contagious disease such as a cold or the flu, or if you’re in treatment for something more serious, you should understand how this may impact your parenting plan.
The basics of a parenting plan
The parenting plan between co-parents is generally set during the divorce process. It includes many basic stipulations that anyone would expect:
- The division of time between parents
- Security for the changing needs of the children
- The official establishment of the finer administrative points of custody
Often this agreement is between parents, and the schedule in it is clear. But no agreement is set in stone; eventually, changes need to happen. Even if everyone were in perfect health, changes would still come and there are two ways to go about it:
- The hard way: Filing petitions, going to court and making this a matter of public record.
- The easy way: Talking to your ex.
Now just because talking to your ex might be the simplest and fastest way to change things in your parenting plan, doesn’t mean it will be successful. It’s simply the best place to start. People with a working, active co-parenting relationship maintain flexibility in these kinds of issues.
The best interests of the child
If one co-parent decides to make a unilateral decision about when a child can visit the other parent due to illness, your parenting plan and the courts likely will secure your parenting rights. While it might be in the best interests of the child to avoid any contagion, in the long-term, having a loving relationship with both parents holds more weight.